Dearie:  As a very young person I was concerned with how I looked and dressed. I still do care, but I don’t give it as much importance. I’ve learned to accept how I look and every day I try to manage aches and pains.  Now it is more important to enjoy time with my family and friends and to feel that I have lived a good life.  There are paths I might have liked to follow and it’s not always been perfect, but mostly I feel good.

Barbara:  The physical changes as well as the loss of friendships and relationships can be challenging   and difficult to accept, but they are inevitable. Learn to expect them and at times to feel a little low.  Unlike the developmental changes of childhood, aging changes are individual and mostly out of our control. It is about managing new limitations,  adapting to them and knowing when to ask and use help.  Think of ways to manage the ups and downs both by being involved with activities and staying connected to others.  When I was a student, I learned an invaluable lesson from a 93 year old gentleman.  He said, “When I was young, when I was 70, I could jump fences.”  From his perspective, 70 was pretty good.  So recognize that every moment in time, can be a good one and valued. Be open to a change in life perspective – this is the wisdom of a life well lived.