From time to time, I hear people giving advice about how to talk with loved ones about end-of-life issues. It’s possible that my mother will live on for years, but her health seems to have declined a lot in the past year. I have this nagging feeling that I haven’t talked with my mother about what’s important to her — but I’m not sure how to ask the questions. I’m also wondering if there are things I’ll wish I had talked with her about once she’s gone.
— Future thinking
I’ve recently met a woman to whom I’m very much attracted. We’ve spent time together doing things we both enjoy and feel that we have much in common. Trouble is we’re quite a bit older now (I’m 81 and she is 76 years old) and I’m not sure if I want to keep this at the friendship level or become more involved and serious with her. We haven’t talked about this and in the back of my mind is the question about how to bring up becoming intimate. Is it ok to have a sexual relationship at our age?